This post is just for YOU, yes, YOU! This post is to either remind you that YOU are beYOUtiful! Yup, I realize I’m spelling this wrong but that’s the point. The focus is on YOU.
Has anyone told you today, this week, this month, or even this year that you are BeYOUtiful? Well, if not, I’m here to tell you… You are extraordinarily beYOUtiful just the way you are. You don’t need to change a thing, you don’t need some makeup, your hair can be up top your head and you can be in your pj’s and the truth remains that you are beYOUtiful just the way you are.
One reason it is so important to see your beauty is because when you see your beauty it usually means that you love WHO you are as well. Let me tell you something that happened to me when I didn’t see myself as beYOUtiful…
I hated what I looked like, I hated my hips, thighs, legs, tummy, my uneven and acne filled skin – I hated everything except my hair – true story. This hatred for my outside package all stemmed from the inside – I hated who I was too. I had a constant tape on repeat in my head…it was full of horrible things to say about me….I was too loud, too dramatic, too annoying, stupid, fat, ugly, too tall, a bother to people and I wasn’t enough. I was made fun of growing up in school and had never been told by a man that I was beYOUtiful. Until one day….
Until one day I was told on a first date that I was beYOUtiful. Wait, what? Someone thinks I’m beYOUtiful?! My life is complete – I matter, I am enough….I thought the goal in life was to find a man who saw me as beYOUtiful. The only thing is, there is so much more to knowing one’s value and worth than just being seen as beYOUtiful. I let this man take control of me and my life which eventually led to being in an abusive marriage with him. It was like just because he thought I was beYOUtiful, nothing else mattered. I was his slave. I was bound to him, because he told me I was beYOUtiful.
You see, beauty is more than just the outside. You hear it all the time, but it actually comes from within and you need to see just how beYOUtiful you are, just the way you are. The only thing is, you truly need to see it. A big part of my journey in loving who I am was by saying out loud the things that I loved about me. Things like – I am strong, I am bold, I am compassionate and I am beYOUtiful. Saying the I am beYOUtiful part was so darn hard though. But once I started to see all the other great qualities about me, I finally started to see my beauty and all that beauty encompasses.
But, here’s the best part of seeing your value, worth and beauty. You can live a better, freer and more peaceful life. You also know what you deserve in life because you know your worth. It helps you make wiser choices for your life. For example, if I had known that I was beYOUtiful and that I was valuable and worthy, I wouldn’t have chosen to stay with a man who was abusive and unfaithful our entire relationship. I would have known that I deserved better and wouldn’t have even paid him mind from the start.
So let’s see what that looks like for me now that I know my value and worth – I see my beauty and now when men ask me out I first look at their character and what they are about before I just say yes to going out with them. If a man thinks I’m beYOUtiful and wants to take me out but I look up on his IG feed and it’s full of naked girls, dirty jokes, is constantly partying, I know that he won’t fit in my lifestyle and that’s ultimately not what I’m looking for and I won’t even entertain it as a thought to date him. Don’t even get me started on the men that have pictures of them and their woman… But, before, I would have entertained a conversation or even gone out with anyone, who just thought I was beYOUtiful. Please don’t take this as a judgmental statement. I am a woman who knows her worth and also knows her priorities in life and that life style is not mine and it would never work and if your that man who has a woman and is hittin me up, expect me to tell you to buck up and go love your woman the way you should.
So, let my story be a lesson in the importance of realizing just how beYOUtiful you are. Now take a step back, go look at yourself in the mirror and say, I am beYOUtiful, just the way that I am. If you don’t believe that today, do this daily until you do and I promise you, one day YOU will actually see it – and you’ll probably shed some tears if your anything like me.
Much thanks to SLINK Jeans to sending me this shirt as a thank you for entering their model search. SLINK Jeans is a power house company who is helping women embrace all of who they are and look good doing it. Be sure to head over to their website, take a look at their mission statement and of course check out their line of jeans and amazing statement shirts – this one is my fav and I was so happy they sent it my way!
Stay BeYOUtiful,
Jeans from Torrid
Photos by Robert Skuja
All photos © 2015 Robert Skuja Photography
Eye Lashes (extensions) by Love Ur Look Beauty my official eyelash specialist
Makeup by Sara Bella Makeup – she not only did my makeup, she has her own line of makeup and used that! I’m in love with her stuff and she’s just all around amazing- be sure to check her out!
Hair by Lavish Salon & Spa
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